It’s time to make New Year’s Resolutions!
Or is it?
A problem with New Year’s Resolutions is that by the time we stop saying “Happy New Year” (around mid-January) we tend to stop thinking about our New Year’s Resolutions.
So how about setting some goals?
I have been setting goals for many years. In 2020 I never set any goals. Changes outside my control after 15 years in a business, negatively impacted my motivation and vision… I lost my WHY. I couldn’t face it and needed a break. I drifted through 2020 (who didn’t?), but I still ended up achieving quite a bit – it just wasn’t what I thought it would be. Over the years I have talked to clients about setting goals and many would struggle with it. The idea of wanting more than we have, the thought of change, what to do if the goals are not met – tends to make people freeze.
I started thinking about goals in a different way in 2017. If you were training with me at the time you received my strange email on the 9th January 2018 ( because I tend to keep this stuff!) Instead of making New Year’s Resolutions (that will not see February) or setting goals (that fill you with fear) how about thinking about WHO YOU WANT TO BE? What comes to mind?
For a moment let’s fast forward to Christmas 2021. Think about the kind of person you want to be. Who are you? Grab ahold of the first thoughts you have.
Now ask yourself a few questions – WHO, WHAT, WHERE.
This list could give you some ideas about the kind of questions to ask.
Who is in your life?
Who are the people you are connecting with regularly?
Who is a positive influence in your life?
Who makes you laugh?
What are you doing for a career?
What are you studying?
What do you look like?
What have you done?
What have you read?
What have you watched?
What music have you listened to?
What are you doing for exercise?
What improvements have you made to your health?
What improvements have you made to your home?
What are you driving/riding?
What projects are you working on?
What are you doing to be creative?
What is your financial position?
What clothes are you wearing?
Where are you living?
Where have you travelled?
Where have you been?
Once you have an idea about how your life will look, spend some time thinking about your WHY. Knowing your WHY is a crucial step. Trust me, if you don’t know your WHY, nothing will change. For example, I am thinking about “What am I doing for exercise?”. WHY – because having a fit and healthy body is important to me. It gives me energy and vitality. It’s essential for my mental health. It makes me a better person. My WHY is strong.
Armed with your WHO, WHAT, WHERE and WHY. The next step is fun; think about the HOW. How are you going to get there? Do some brainstorming. Talk to the people around you – but be careful with this. Talk to those that will lift you up, that will inspire you and give you courage and strength to be a better person than you already are. If the person you pick is negative, just walk away. The next step is CRUCIAL. Grab yourself some paper and pencils or pens and write it all down. You absolutely must write it down. This is the time to be honest with yourself. If you don’t write it down, you don’t care about the WHY enough. When you care about something you will find the time, you will make it happen.
If you like the idea of a little time travel to the future and being an even better person than you already are, this is a great way to get there. If you want support give me a call – I am here for you.
Wishing you a happy and healthy 2021 – may it be magical 😊